Should Parents Tell Their Children the Truth about Santa Claus

Parenting and Santa expert Dr. Roland Trujillo  says some parents

are still pretending that Santa Claus brings toys, but there are also valid reasons to consider not telling kids that Santa is real.

 Dr. Trujillo discussed whether parents should tell their children Santa is real during a radio broadcast which aired on KCAA Radio in Riverside, CA.

Roland Trujillo is the author of Santa's Take on Parenting, a parent education book published just in time for Christmas. "I love Santa Claus," says Dr. Trujillo, "and I've just published a Santa story for parents. Nevertheless, I sympathize with parents who have chosen not to do the Santa thing. You can love what Santa stands for without having to say that he is real."

"Basically I have no problem with parents having Santa bring toys, as long as they feel comfortable with it. On the other hand, I don't disagree with parents who choose not to tell their kids Santa is real."

Dr. Trujillo discussed the issue in more detail in a recent article entitled "Should Parents Tell Children that Santa is Real." "There are important principles involved and also some subtleties," says Trujillo.

The article Should Parents Tell their Kids about Santa may be read at the Kids R Little People Foundation website.

About The Kids R Little People Foundation

The Kids R Little People Foundation is dedicated to the well being of children through parent education. Dr. Roland Trujillo, its founder and director, is a tireless advocate for children. Dr. Trujillo who has a Doctorate in Pastoral Psychology, is the author of the book Santa's Take on Parenting. His book is a parent education resource which teaches positive parenting and parent involvement. For more information about the foundation and Dr. Trujillo, visit

About the book

Roland Trujillo has published a parent education resource that is also a good read. Dr. Roland Trujillo  has long wanted to write a book that could be used to help educate parents on how to set limits on behavior without resorting to corporal punishment or excessive discipline.

"I think this is it," says Dr. Trujillo. "I've gotten very positive feedback from both parents and professionals. It's a book that parents will want to read. It's a fun filled story. But it is also full of many teachable moments.
I believe it will make an excellent tool for counselors, therapists and other professionals who work with families. It is a take home resource for parents, new moms and dads, and for parents who need some coaching on positive parenting."
.I'm hoping that every professional will read it then pass the link on to someone else. One issue that counselors and other professionals who work with families face is how to overcome resistance. I'm sure that this book will help."

"Santa's Take on Parenting is a book for all seasons," states Dr. Trujillo. "Parenting is a 365 day a year job, and this book is a year round resource. In fact, one of the reasons why the book is so effective is because the Santa motif is charming and disarming. The creative and gentle parenting strategies are just as powerful in July as they are in December. "

Santa's Take on Parenting: Secrets from the North Pole

.What does Santa have to say about homework, discipline, and chores?

.Santa Claus has finally spoken on the subject of parenting. Who is better suited to give advice than the one who has brought joy and delight to children for as long as anyone can remember?

. In this modern day Santa story for parents, the reader follows Santa and Mr.s Claus as they work with a couple of kids who come to stay with them. The results are positive and inspirational, as Santa teaches by example how patience and creativity can make parenting a lot more fun and easy.

"In this fun filled educational book, the author introduces innovative parenting strategies by using the power of story telling to take the reader on a fictional visit with Santa and Mrs. Claus. The reader learns how Santa and Mrs. Claus handle issues that arise with a pair of youngsters who spend a few months with the Clauses.".What are "time outs Santa Style?".How does Santa solve discipline and communication issues?

What's on Santa's do's and don'ts list?.

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What is Santa's secret to making chores fun and easy?.What does Santa say to parents about getting off to a good start?. You'll find the answers to these questions and more in this book, destined to become a classic. Roland's new book is a Santa story for grownups with many teachable moments.

Santa's Take on Parenting is a handbook for parents. It has many new, easy to use creative solutions to typical kids issues.
But it is also a fun read and a good story. 

Visit the official Santa's Take on Parenting website and find out what temperature it is at the North Pole

Top 10 Reasons for Divorce

There are as many reasons for divorce as there are stars in the Milky Way Galaxy.  Having been a couples coach for over 25 years, I've heard many of them.

So here are the Top 10 Reasons for Divorce, and then I will offer a few comments.

1. My husband and I have nothing in common.
  Comment: Often this means "I resent my husband." Marriage is for the purpose of raising a family and to learn to be unselfish. I wrote a blog post on the subject. Having totally different interests has its pluses.  

2. I'm tired of arguing all the time.

Comment: the phrase "I'm tired of" basically means I'm resentful

3. I met someone else.

Comment: Naughty, naughty

4. I want to find someone who meets my needs.

Comment. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. But as someone said, it has to be cut, fertilized and watered too.

5. My spouse committed adultery and I can't forgive him or her.

Comment. This is a tough one.  Adultery is grounds for divorce. Nevertheless, as one person said, "adultery is grounds for divorce, but it is also grounds for forgiveness."  Try to let go of the resentment, because resentment clouds your ability to see clearly and also is not good for your emotional health.. 

6.  We have grown apart.

Comment: Join the club

7. I want to find someone else before I'm too old.

Comment: I am already too old, so that frees me to focus on something else other than myself. .

8. My husband irritates me.

Comment: Watch out for resentment. Resentment increases our sensitivity and irritability.

9. I need to take some time to find myself.

Comment:  This is what men say when they have a roving eye or most likely when they have already found someone else. Get some wise mentors and assess whether there is a future with this guy or not. If he is permanently selfish and weak charactered, this might be a case of good riddance to bad rubbish.

10. We are incompatible. We are having a s*xless marriage.

Comment: these two do not necessarily equate. You would be surprised how many marriages become sexless. Sorry. s*xless. There is something to be said for graciously laying down the things of youth. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I prefer grandma and grandpa to be dignified at all times.
 I like what Lord Chesterfied had to say about it: "The pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous, and the expense damnable."

Bonus reasons

11. My husband refuses to work on our marriage or go to counseling.

Comment: Most men are this way. But that is not a reason to throw in the towel.

12.  I think my spouse is cheating on me.

Comment: If he is cheating on you, this is not good, with all the diseases going around. Adultery is grounds for divorce. Stay calm and build yourself a good support network. Be prepared to protect yourself financially, legally, and health wise. I cannot advise what to do, get professional advice where you are. 

Remember the words of Ivana Trump, "Don't get mad, get everything."

Read My Husband and I Have Nothing in Common

This is a blog in progress, so I will be adding more comments

Roland Trujillo MS, DPP, OM, is the author of 18 books and host of a radio advice program now in its 26th year